How do you wrap up 3 of the most… I don’t even
know the word… wonky? days in a row I have experienced in all my 25 years and 9
months of life? Really while I was in it, it didn’t feel like much different than
my normal life but now sitting here trying to condense it to one little (okay after reading this over, it turned out really long... sorry!) interesting blog it feels pretty intense...
Anyway…
Sunday afternoon I had an epiphany. The only
thing that has ever really helped my IC is my bilateral (two) interstims. I
have had a total of 12 surgeries just on them but the reason why I have put myself
through that many is because they do work, when they work! The only time in the
12 years that I have had IC when the pain was under control was when my
interstims were working correctly. So I keep trying. I keep hoping that we will
achieve the success that we once accomplished with them. Well, I decided to
give them one more try, I would call my doctor first thing Monday morning and
ask if she would operate on them one more time. I have had them off for 6
months due to lots of “wire migration” and a broken lead on one. I basically
had two broken down cars sitting on my lawn. It was time to either fix them or
get them towed away!
That evening I started having really bad cramps. All I could
do was curl up in a ball with my heating pad. I have been trying to cut back on
my narcotics usage so I took some Tylenol PM and hoped a good night’s rest
would help and I would wake up back to ”normal”.
Monday morning the pain had nothing but worsened. Yet still
my first thought was to call my urologists office about fixing my interstims. I
left a message for the nurse and then focused on the weird cramping I was
feeling. The random thought kept whirling around in my head... Could I be
pregnant? I was late getting my depo-provera shot... Then I started thinking
about all the things I had done to this potential baby. Taken several Valium
suppositories, pain meds almost daily, and the actual shot! The thoughts were
flitting in and out of my mind as my cramps worsened.
The idea of taking pain meds was tempting but every time I held
the bottle in my hand I thought but, what if! What if I'm that 1% that gets
pregnant on birth control? These cramps felt exactly like the ones I had when I
found out I was pregnant with my now 16 month old, Titus!
So despite the pain I threw on some semi matching, slightly ill fitting
(thanks to the dang amitriptyline, I gained 15 lbs in one month. I am so glad I’m
done with that junk!) clothes and drove to the pharmacy. I almost got in 3
fairly major car accidents as the pain and emotions distracted me, making my
already sketchy driving skills worse. Shaking with nerves and pain I bought a
test then drove back in a fog of what ifs.
At home I forced out a few drips of protesting urine and waited.
Negative.
I didn't know what to feel. I wasn't surprised by the results
but I was surprised by the sadness that enveloped me. We aren't ready for
another baby, my pain makes it hard enough to take care of the precious one we
already have. Still. There was a tiny glimmer of hope that was squashed faster
than it started.
I made myself move past the emotions quickly because I still had
the major issue of the excruciating pain I was in.
Eventually the pain escalated to a 10 and my confused body reacted
by vomiting. I knew something was wrong. This was not just my usual IC pain. I
asked my mom to take me to the ER and off we went. Dragging a freshly napped
and cheerful baby along with!
When I got to the ER there was lots of talk of appendicitis and
my decrepit (freshly padded thank you again amitriptyline) tummy was extra
tender to the touch. So the doctor ordered pain meds, fluids, blood work, a urine
sample and a ct scan.
The IV dilaudid worked like a dream and the pain was just a
memory as they went about their tests. After about an hour the pain broke
through the heavy duty meds. So they doped me up again. Only to hear that everything
came back normal and I must surely have some pesky virus! See ya later, don't
let the door hit ya!!
I went home with some anti-nausea prescriptions and medicine for
cramping that turned out to be an IBS drug? What?
The IV meds quickly wore off and I was once again sitting in the
shower in misery. I popped two Vicodin and waited for sleep.
Sleep never really came. I curled up with my heating pad all
night waiting for the pain to subside. When I did sleep it was full of dreams
of the house catching on fire from my heating pad and becoming The Next Food
Network Star! (I had a very interesting show, first I did episodes on pregnancy
cravings, then baby food, and of course yummy, healthy kid food! My dream
self is a creative genius!)
When I finally opened my eyes to the adorable babbling of my
kiddo over the monitor I was rejoicing that it was actually time to wake up
until I realized the cramps were still as present as ever!
After desperately calling my mom to retrieve Titus, I called my
faithful and amazing ob/gyn. Once upon a time he plucked me from my mother’s
very womb and then diagnosed me with endometriosis at the tender age of 13! He
has been with me through it all and in a circle ending twist, he plucked my son
from MY very womb!
Anyway, I got an appointment with him that afternoon. So I had
several hours to kill until it was time to leave. I laid around with my heating
pad hoping for a reprieve from the pain when the nurse from my urologists
office finally called back saying that my doctor had agreed it was time to fix
the interstims and to expect a call from the surgery scheduler. I felt a little
encouraged that we were at least going to be taking a step forward with the IC
side of things.
My mom was happily willing to drive me to the doctor but she had
a few errands to do on our way. The pain and nausea decided to pile in and join
us on our ride. The pain was so intense I had sweat beading on my forehead and
I rolled the window down despite the rainy, 40 degree Seattle weather.
After my Mom’s checklist was complete we headed for the doctor’s
office. I was taken right back with hardly a moment of waiting. My loving, albeit
older, Pierce Brodson look alike doctor came in with a genuine sympathetic
smile. It was never good news when I was there. We chatted about the pain and
he surmised it was probably my endometriosis back with a vengeance.
His conclusion was that he really needed to go in there and see
what's going on. It has been 4 years since my last laparoscopy so it seemed
like a good idea to me too. It’s just an outpatient surgery with three tiny
incisions, they use a scope to look at my uterus and ovaries then laser off any
endometriosis growth. OF COURSE my luck continued and he is booked next week
and out of town the next so it is scheduled for February 27th, 3
weeks away. He did prescribe me some dilaudid and said to just try to hang in
there until we can get this beast under control.
Today I woke up with the cramping still pretty intense and my usual
IC pain pitching a fit that it was being forced to take a back seat. I took
dilaudid first thing this morning and have been loafing around watching old “Friends”
episodes with my reliable heating pad. Then my urologists office called and
scheduled the interstim surgery for March 18th.
Sorry to have such a long and dreary blog… sometimes my life is such. Although
this might be a hard several weeks ahead I am hopeful that the surgeries will
lead to some answers and mostly, some well needed relief!
To end this on a happy note I must share with my lovely readers
a little story about my adorable son! One of his favorite things is to get in
the shower with me. We have lots of toys and even books in there, we blow
bubbles, brush our teeth, play with squirt guns. It’s so much fun for both of
us, and a happy break for me! For some reason he likes to straddle my tummy and
sit facing me as we enjoy our shower time fun but with these new cramps his
almost 30 lbs of pure, sweet baby on my tender tummy is pretty painful. So this
evening while he drummed on the shampoo with my toothbrush, I laid my head back
and closed my eyes, just trying to get through the pain. When I opened my eyes
he had his tiny pointer finger up to his pursed lips saying “shhhhh”! I died.
It was the sweetest thing I have ever seen. I try not to show him my pain but
even in the midst of it he makes me laugh and feel overflowing love. Here is a
picture I took of him this morning just so you can get a glimpse of my
treasure!
Hope we all can enjoy the little things in life among the
physical and emotional aches of this horrifying disease! Love and daily prayers
to you all!
Ok, I just have to comment! Because you know I <3 ya! You do not, let me repeat, DO NOT always have to be positive! Writing about anything problems you go threw helps us and educates us. I love reading your blog. Positive or negitive!!! I am sorry that you are in pain! I am praying for you daily! Also you can always text me and I can cheer you up! But I am very glad you have a beautiful young man to instantly cheer you up and overwhelm you with unconditional love!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm so truely sorry to read all you are going thru at this time. I do remember my endo problems put with my IC. That is why I took my drs advice 13 yrs ago and had my uterus with one overy. After that I got relief for a little bit from my IC also.
ReplyDeleteI can imagine what you are going thru since my kids were young when I was having problems.
I wish I could help you in some way. I am happy that you got some medication that will help you. If you need someone to chat with I'm here.
I send my love and prayers to you.
Hi Denim, I spent most of last night reading your blog and watching a drawn out episode of Downton Abbey. First of all, you crack me up. Secondly, I am enviuos that THE IC queen bee commented on your blog. Lastly, I can relate to your IC pain and the challenges of trying to be a Mom. I will add to my comments later on this week when I have some time. Sorry I called you Denim. My kindle has to spell it that way.
ReplyDeleteI will keep you in my prayers and thank you for sharing yourself.
MaryCat